Life is full of frustrations! They can be small problems that are solved quickly, or they can be major problems that require time to sort through. Frustration is a strong emotion, and I think it is one of the worst feelings. It can cause anger, bitterness, stress, and even a loss of self-confidence. When I feel like there’s no solution to a problem, or I just don’t know what to do to fix it, I feel stuck. It can be like a never ending cycle. No matter what you do, there is no end in sight. If you ignore the problem, it can make it worse. It’s almost like feeling trapped. So how do you deal with this?
A lot of times, frustration stems from not understanding the problem. It may be a lack of understanding of a person’s behavior, or just a certain situation. When I start to feel frustrated, I try to take a step back and look at the whole situation. I look at how my response could determine the outcome. I weigh my options. I actually learned this piece of advice from a professor in a counseling class. I look at three different possibilities.
- The worst case scenario – This is obviously the worst way the situation could go.
- The best case scenario – This is what I hope will happen.
- What will probably happen – This is reality, what will probably happen.
Thinking things through like this does help me to at least look at the big picture and not just react. I really try to not just react to situations because that just makes it worse. After going over these outcomes in my head, I try to figure out the best way to proceed. The end result may not go any of these directions, but at least I can have a clearer head about it before I approach it. Depending on what the situation is, I may talk about these three options with my husband or a friend. That helps me to get another perspective on the situation. And, a lot of times, just talking through it will help me figure it out and feel peaceful.
One of my favorite ways to think through problems is to go for a run or a long walk. This helps to get away from everything for a little while and clear my mind. It also helps me to calm down. To me, exercise is a more productive way of handling things. I used to want to hole up alone and stew on problems. That didn’t do me any good to shut myself off from everyone, and sit and worry when I wasn’t thinking clearly. I think the endorphin’s from exercise help tremendously!
I have had a lot of things going on the last few weeks professionally and personally that have caused me a lot of frustration and stress. There have been some things happen at work that have made me feel defeated because the situation is out of my control. This is one of those times that the situation didn’t go in any of the directions that I had thought it might.
Above all of this though, in order to find peace I pray about it and try very hard to not worry about it. I know that a lot of things are out of my control. I just have to give it to God. I really struggle with worrying about things, so I have to try hard not to.
Frustration can be a very powerful emotion, but we can’t let it control us, or we will be miserable. There will always be frustrations in life; you just have to figure out how to deal with them as they happen.